Is it my problem or your problem?

Evenin’ All. This is a nation-neutral post in case anyone’s wondering. It’s also all about me. And you. Well everyone.

So the lazy river I did brave today. I’m going to be honest that without the Vegas sunshine this one was a little tame but, and this is a big but (I see you sniggering at the back 😉) a lazy river I did request and one I found. It made me smile. Today’s swimwear shows some of my scars at the side, I had to take a bigger gulp before I walked in there but I did it. Again, for fairly obvious not wanting to break myself reasons, I skipped my favourite slides (really not wanting to catch myself on anything quite just yet 😳) .

So, what’s my beef today? I haven’t got one really. I just wasn’t sure what to do about the communal changing. Should I go for it and risk someone getting upset (as they might have to explain something to a young child or I might put them off their supper)? Or should I (as I did) change in private?

I don’t have to decide today but do want to understand your views. As you know, I’m hardly one to steer away from human rights and a good principle. It’s a part-time job, battling for what’s right in my own little world. However, if it might result in my embarrassment, I take it more gently. I’m avoiding the issue for now rather than facing it head on. I’m still not up for naked saunas – that’s not in question 😂.

Do you think someone here or in the UK might complain? Could I then counter-complain about their saggy boobs (unfair play sorry) or ugly soul?

I think I might need a team approach first time around. Safety in numbers and someone with enough arm strength to bop someone on the nose if required. I definitely don’t want to hide away. I like me and I don’t want anyone to think I’m ashamed of my body, I’m proud of it making it through all this!

I’m off for some early evening Lego shopping action. It really is fun doing it this way (I know some of you parents think I must have lost the plot), I get to see the happiness on little faces but with no-one tugging at my arm wanting the loo. Although I’m looking forward to doing it all again with my niece Elise when she’s big enough 😍.

Thoughts please…❤️

Ps. Can you believe that the 😉 emoji dropped off my favourites this week? Yes, I noticed. Clearly not enough sarcasm (/else to think about 🤔😂) and I shall rectify this ASAP.

4 responses to “Is it my problem or your problem?”

  1. Elaine Avatar
    Elaine

    Personally, I would go whatever you feel comfortable with stuff everyone else xx

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  2. Sarah Moore Avatar
    Sarah Moore

    Oh the though of any woman complaining about any other woman’s body makes my blood boil – we all have our own individual insecurities and we should all support each other not bring each other down.
    You just have to do what you feel most comfortable with, did you go communal before your mastectomy? I don’t mind using communal changing areas but I know plenty of women with, in my opinion better bodies than mine who hide away in the cubicals.
    Kids are always tricky because they’re always so unpredictable but they say it how it is , and they’re honest so I suppose you always know where you stand with them . My daughter is the the type to ask lots of questions and i find the best way to deal with them is head on because once she has the answers she is very empathetic compared to most her age but she’s been through a lot more adult based stuff than most 😐.
    Enjoy your child free Legoland time.
    I went to the Windsor one before I had my daughter and I borrowed the kids I used to nanny for cos I thought people might think we were strange going without kids – how wrong were we and lumbered with two kids 😂

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  3. undergroundfox Avatar
    undergroundfox

    Hi Sarah, thank you for this! You make very very good points. I think it will depend where I am as to how I feel and so I suspect I’m answering my own questions but really appreciate your angle. I’m happy to talk about it and answer any direct questions 😊. I’m probably more aware of women’s bodies than I’ve ever been now and we are all so very different. I suspect other things will come from this too.

    Haha on Legoland! You probably did the right thing, I’m cheating really 😉. Although I’m deffo going to walk the dogs there for a photo op at least 😂. x

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  4. undergroundfox Avatar
    undergroundfox

    Thanks Elaine, you’re right. There was a woman with a walking stick in one of the pools (with the stick) today 😳That was more of a health and safety issue tbf 😂 but yes, we all freak someone out in some way or another. xx

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